I haven’t been around for that long but one amazing thing that any wedding photographer will know is that you never cease to learn.
This year’s wedding season -which is far from being over- has already thought me so much for any new wedding is a chance to improve myself. I’ve attended one mentoring session with Laura Babb, that taught me how to have fun with my couples whilst shooting their couple portraits and keep the awkwardness at bay (I can get very awkward), I’ve attended a one-day workshop with Adam Bronkhorst that taught me that my flash isn’t an annoying and scary little piece of gear that I must only use if there are no other options whatsoever, but instead to play with it and master it to compliment environment and natural light. I’ve lost count of the amount of things I’ve learnt from the Welcome Home facebook group peeps as well.

But I have to admit, one of the biggest learning curves this year was learning to love my couples.
Now, don’t get me wrong; I have always given my very best and I have always adored to bits every single couple I had the honour to photograph, but this year something has shifted in the way I work with them.

Confetti shot

I still can’t exactly put my finger on what exactly has triggered this change, but if I had to take a wild guess I would probably put it down to:

  1. Meeting with my brides and grooms quite a few times before their wedding day; thanks to adding a complementary engagement shoot as standard to my most requested coverage option and meeting them for a cup before the booking is even made, on the morning of their wedding day I basically feel like I’m going to just meet up with a friend!
  2. Finally being able to answer the question ‘what do you do?’ with ‘I’m a photographer’ without letting the tiny evil voice on the back of my had whisper ‘now that makes you sound like a total ass, Martina’.

Yes, I would say it’s these two things.

Gaining a bit more confidence has helped loads, but meeting my couples beforehand and spending time photographing them before their wedding day has had a massive impact. By the time their wedding day is near, they already know my face, know how awkward I can get, how I hate posing people but still do if they freeze and don’t know what to do with their arms. They have had me around for a few hours before, so entering their house in the morning is a lot easier and sweeter. I can go to them and hug them and it’s not weird. I can ask them to sit on the grass or run or pick their other half up because we’ve done it already and I know they don’t mind, and I know better than to ask again if I know it makes them uncomfortable.

It has taken away the ‘must not annoy them by taking too much time’ feeling away from me, and they no longer feel like they need to perform. Because we’re just messing around and having fun together.

I feel like I would go all the extra miles for them, I often feel like I should go to them and hug them, just because.

Because I love them.

  • September 26, 2014 - 7:54 am

    Ruth - It’s so good when you are able to have fun with couples… They will love you for it too :) ReplyCancel

  • September 26, 2014 - 11:36 am

    Sharon Cooper - Building relationships before a wedding is something I enjoy immensely. On the day you have to understand everthing and keep your eyes open for magic happening, a happy photographer who loves her job makes a wedding day flow. That is it.ReplyCancel

  • September 26, 2014 - 8:25 pm

    Clare Tam-Im - I love your honesty in this post. But I totally agree, it makes the whole experience better for everyone when you’re on a good level with your couples and they feel comfortable around you and you can just have fun.ReplyCancel

  • September 26, 2014 - 9:15 pm

    Kelly - Very honest post. I really enjoyed reading this xxxReplyCancel

These two lovely people are getting married in just under two weeks and I can’t wait for their wedding.
When we were scheduling this engagement shoot, Richard mentioned that Paraskevi’s favourite animal is the goose, and that it would be amazing if we could find a place that had maybe a pond with geese.
We did find it and it was probably one of the best parks I’ve ever went to shoot, I might have liked even a bit more than Holland Park, if anything because it’s a lot bigger and it’s got a number of different buildings and it’s hardly crowded.
It is lovely and quiet, which helped them both relaxing, Rich was also great at making his other half laugh and feel comfortable, and the whole shoot ended up being absolutely adorable from start to finish.

So much we nearly forgot about the geese!

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Oh my, where to start with this?
Charlotte and Billy’s wedding day was a very last minute one for me. I spoke for the first time time with Charlotte only a week before the day, and thinking back now I feel so extremely lucky.
This was a wedding unlike any other I’ve ever seen, because of the extent  Charlotte and Billy went to to make sure that all the children (there were many!) had an amazing time just as much as -if not more than- the adults.
You’ll see what I mean when you get to the reception, the details are impressive. There were so many ideas to entertain the children that I really felt like *I* should have been one too!
Two full tables were arranged for kids, there were all sort of toys, sweets, inflatable guitars, masks, and a bouncing castle that the ladies tried to hijack for a funny shot (it didn’t go down as well as we expected, but it was somehow even better).
Charlotte and Billy themselves have two gorgeous little boys who were part of the day no less than Charlotte and Billy themselves, and who could not help but being there, playing and adorably teasing, even in that brief time Charlotte and I managed to search for the super-camera-shy Billy and have them spend a few minutes alone.

It was an amazing day, I believe karma will kick me hard at some point this year to compensate for the luck I’ve had in having this wedding dropping in my inbox with such short notice.


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  • August 28, 2014 - 5:09 pm

    Laura Babb - Lovely coverage, Martina. xReplyCancel

  • August 29, 2014 - 8:09 am

    Fiona Campbell - Love it! I think the decision on whether you have children at a wedding should be based on whether or not you like the children in question. These ones look lovely!ReplyCancel

  • August 30, 2014 - 4:58 pm

    Kelly - Lovely Martina.xxReplyCancel